In life, in order to avoid making, I hate to say it, stupid mistakes, you need to be careful whenever you see signs that things don’t seem to be going as smooth as you’d hoped. What are these signs and what actions should you take?
The first sign is the odd feeling you get when your instincts are telling you that things seem to be going off the wrong direction. If you have a hunch that something bad is about to happen be careful. Be on the lookout and watch out for things that could go wrong and be more watchful of your actions. Before doing anything or making decisions, think about it thoroughly just like how you’d ponder before you make a move in a game of chess. Just like in chess, life employs the rule touch-move. That is, you can’t undo your moves. The things you’ve done and your actions will forever stay done and made. There is no such thing as a rewind or a redo. Once you’ve done something, it will stay done no matter what you do.
The second sign is feedback from others. If other people think that what you are doing isn’t the right thing, consider their opinion and stop for a while to think about it. Are their arguments valid? This doesn’t mean that you should immediately say yes to whatever people have to say about your decisions. You just simply have to think about it and consider their opinion as another side of the coin. All you have to do is reflect on it and decide whether you should go along with their opinion or go ahead with yours. This will also give you the opportunity to look through the things you’ve done so far to check if you’ve made something that would lead you to the wrong road which your friends think you’re heading to.
How do you check if what your friends are saying is true? What you need to look for is the reason behind why they’re saying you should stop or what you’re doing is wrong. And the only way to know why they have such opinions is to ask them. Let them explain it to you clearly. Listen, understand what they’re saying, and try not to judge or make any personal reactions. Once they’ve done that, keep their explanation in your mind. Then, think about what you think about their side. After that, ask others about the side that your friend presented. You don’t have to tell them who the opinion came from. By not telling them who thought of it, you will avoid getting biased opinions. Now, remember to clearly state that what you want to know is if your friend has a point or not. Once they’ve explained their side about your friend’s opinion, you can start analyzing the validity of your friend’s argument, taking in consideration the new information you gathered from others.
The third sign is doubt. This doubt is you being unsure of your decisions and how things are going. If you aren’t too sure about your decision, inform others especially when they will be affected with your decisions. Ask for guidance and advice. Perhaps they have better ideas and they can aid you in making the right choice.
The above mentioned are just three of many other signs that you need to look out for. Do you know of other signs that tell you you’re heading in the wrong direction? If so, do share in the comments box below. On another note, have you signed up for the site’s newsletter? Doing so will give you an update of new articles on the site as well as a free chapter of the Goal Setting Ebook. If you haven’t done that already, simply key in your e-mail address at the designated area on the upper right box of the page.